親子共學日分享：如何忍住怒氣

阿訇分享：

●我們可以生氣，但不要被生氣控制

●生氣就像那杯水，慢慢放下這杯水，讓水不會灑出來　(停一下，就沒事了)

如果有人推你，可以回答：

「我不喜歡這樣，請你不要再推我，我會去找老師哦」　（學會保護自己）

●真正強的人，不是把別人打倒，而是當生氣來的時候，能夠忍住怒氣，控制自己怒氣，才是真正的強者，弱者是，輸給了自己的怒氣。

●Dua：主阿，請引導我們的心，使我們遠離怒恨，並使我們成為能夠克制怒氣的人

●一次怒氣，毀掉很多善功

●念求護詞：

我求安拉保護，被從驅逐的惡魔的傷害，保護我們

（I seek Allah's protection from Satan who is accursed.）

Aaozu billa hi minas shaitaa-nir-rajeem.

仪姆兰的家属(阿黎仪姆兰)

3:134

الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ ۗ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

敬畏的人，在康樂時施捨，在艱難時也施舍，且能抑怒、又能恕人。真主是喜愛行善者的。

——《古兰经》

意思是：

「（敬畏者是）能抑制怒氣、寬恕他人的人；真主喜愛行善的人。」

(在怒氣中，記得真主，敬畏真主，在最難時活出信仰，原諒別人的人，這些真主都會記著)

先知 ﷺ 說：

> ليس الشديد بالصُّرَعة، إنما الشديد الذي يملك نفسه عند الغضب

「真正的強者，不是把人摔倒的人，而是生氣時能控制自己的人。」

（布哈里 & 穆斯林）

先知 ﷺ 教導：

> إذا غضب أحدكم وهو قائم فليجلس، فإن ذهب عنه الغضب وإلا فليضطجع

「當你生氣時，如果是站著就坐下；如果還沒消氣，就躺下。」

> إن الغضب من الشيطان

فإذا غضب أحدكم فليتوضأ

怒氣來自惡魔，生氣時可以去洗小淨（或洗臉、洗手）。(生氣像心裡起火，用水把火將溫)

Allah will make a way very soon InshaAllah

 

Reference: Islamic Quotes

Tawakkul Trust in Allah's guidance and rely on Him completely.

 

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With 3 Duas Allah Solve All Your Problems

 

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5 Quranic Verses to Heal Broken Hearts

 

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Sadaqa Jariyat

Sadaqa Jariyat

It is basically giving charity that will benefit people even after you die. Jariyah means “ever-flowing” , like an endless source of water, Sadaqa is charity. Literally it means “running”, but when applied to water it means ever-flowing. Wherever water flows, life grows. Same goes for knowledge.

The messenger of Allah ﷺ said once: “When a human being dies, all one’s deeds cease, save three: a Sadaqah Jariyah, [religious] knowledge [one leaves behind] from which others benefit, and a righteous child who prays for one” 真主的使者 ﷺ 說：“當一個人死亡時，他的所有行為都會停止，除了三個：Sadaqah Jariyah，一個人留下來使他人受益的宗教知識，以及一個為他祈禱的正直的孩子”

When you die, your wealth and possessions become useless, and your good deeds stop being counted. Except that kind of sadaqa, that keeps adding up for your soul and help make your scale heavier to reach Jannah inshaAllah.

BISMILLAH IR RAHMAN IR RAHEEM

Bism = meaning ‘with’, ‘by’, or ‘name’.

ilah = Arabic word meaning “God”.

Ar Rahman and Ar Raheem are two of the 99 names of Allah which refer to Allah’s attribute of being kind, gentle, and merciful.

Putting this together, you can come up with the translation 

“By the name of God (Allah), the all-Merciful, the especially-Merciful”.

There are many hadiths which stress the virtues and benefits to the one who remembers to say Bismillah.

Generally, Muslims should begin by saying this phrase before starting any task or chore. By doing so you’re basically saying, “I start this action in the name of Allah”. You can convey your heartfelt gratitude to Allah. It serves as a reminder to keep Allah in mind in all we do. So, say these beautiful words as often as you can and see for yourself the advantages!

To ask Allah’s blessings.

To ask Allah’s blessings, say Bismillah.

Before doing any action, we usually recite Bismillah. We ask for Allah’s blessings and remind ourselves that all we do is at Allah’s command. As a result, we ask Allah to bless us with barakah in rizq as we recite Bismillah before beginning our meal.

When you say Bismillah, you are requesting Allah’s assistance. We begin all our actions in the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, the Most Benevolent, to remember that everything is for His sake. We begin in Allah’s name in the hope that we will be successful, rewarded and blessed.

Most of us will say something before we, or others, start an action or an important task. It helps us get in the zone, become prepared and to mark the beginning.‘Bismillah’ is a powerful phrase that completes our actions and adds immense reward and barakah to everything that follows it.

Holding Fast to the Rope of Allah

 

[3:104] 當共同緊握安拉的繩索，莫要分開。追憶一下安拉對你們的這個恩德，當你們互相為敵時，他在你們的心中產生了親愛之情，結果你們賴他的恩德竟做成弟兄了；你們原在火坑邊緣上的，他從那裏拯救了你們。 Hold fast, all of you, by the rope of Allah, and be not divided. Remember the blessing of Allah upon you: When you were enemies to each other, and He brought your hearts together, so that, you became brothers through His blessing.

[22: 79] 要在安拉的道上全力奮鬥，因為他已選擇了你們，沒使你們在宗教教義方面遭受煩難。信仰的人啊！要奉行你們的父親伊布拉欣的宗教；安拉在從前和這部書裡給你們取名「穆斯林，」以便使者為你們作證，而你們為整個人類作證。你們要固守拜功、交納天課、緊緊地握著安拉。他是你們的保護者。這是多麼好的保護者、多麼好的幫助者啊！And strive in the cause of Allah, as it behoves you to strive for it. He has chosen you and has laid no hardship upon you in religion; so follow the faith of your father Ibrahim. He (Allah) named you Muslims both before and in this Book (Qur’an), so that the Messenger becomes a witness over you, and you become witnesses over mankind. Therefore, observe Salah, pay the Zakah and hold fast to Allah. He is your Master. An excellent Mester and an excellent Helper!

Holding fast to Him protects one from doom and destruction, for the one who is journeying towards Allah is like one who is travelling on a path towards his intended destination. Hence he needs guidance on the road and he needs to be safe whilst travelling; he cannot reach his intended destination except after attaining these two things.

The guide will protect him from losing his way, and will guide him to the right path; and equipment, physical strength and weapons will help him to be safe from bandits and any other troubles he may encounter on the road.

So holding fast to the rope of Allah will lead him on the path of guidance and help him to follow the guide.

Ibn ‘Abbaas said: Adhere to the religion of Allah.

Ibn Mas‘ood said: It is the jamaa‘ah (main body of the Muslims). And he said: You should adhere to the jamaa‘ah, for it is the rope of Allah that He has enjoined us to hold fast to. What you may find of things you dislike when you are with the jamaa‘ah is better than what you may find of things you like when you are scattered.

Mujaahid and ‘Ataa’ said: It means adhering to the covenant of Allah. Qataadah, as-Saddi and many of the scholars of tafseer said: It means adhering to the Qur’an.

Then he said: As for holding fast to Him, it means putting one’s trust in Him, seeking strength with Him, seeking protection with Him, and asking Him to protect the individual, give him strength and ward off harm from him. For the result of holding fast to Him is that He will ward off harm from His slave, for Allah defends those who believe. So He will ward off from his believing slave, if he holds fast to Him, any cause that could lead to problems, and He will protect him from that. So He will protect him from doubts and desires, and from the schemes of his enemies both apparent and hidden, and from the evil of his own self. He will ward off from him the consequences of that which may lead to problems and troubles after the causes thereof are all present, commensurate with the strength with which he holds fast to Him, so that the causes of troubles and problems will be removed in his case, and thus Allah will protect him from what could result from that and the causes thereof. He may ward off from him something that He had decreed by means of another decree, and something that He willed by means of something else that He wills, thus protecting him from it. End quote from Madaarij as-Saalikeen (1/457-460).

Allah says: “Hold fast, all together, to the Rope of Allah.” The scholars mention five interpretations of the term, “rope”:

◆The Qur’an,

◆Being sincere with Allah

◆The whole religion of Islam

◆The pious and upright scholars

◆Our Prophet Muhammad ﷺ

The ‘holding fast” that is mentioned in the Qur’an is of two types: holding fast to Allah, and holding fast to the rope of Allah.

The fifth meaning encompasses all the previous meanings mentioned. It is through our Prophet ﷺ that we are able to reach Allah, as Allah Himself has mentioned that the Prophet ﷺ is the door to Allah. May Allah give us the ability to follow the Prophet ﷺ and his guidance.

It is the responsibility of the Muslim Ummah to understand the reality of the rope of Allah and to spread this message to the people around us.

Our Prophet ﷺ is mercy, a blessing to all creation. Allah says:

“We have not sent you but as a mercy to all the worlds.”

Our beloved Prophet ﷺ not only showed mercy to the believers, but also to those who do not believe and even to those who showed enmity to him. Look at the hadith of the moths and the fire. One meaning of the fire here is the dunya, our lower selves and our desires. Allah sent the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ to save mankind from destruction and the Hellfire. When we give preference to things other than Allah, we are essentially bringing ourselves to destruction.

Look at the story of the Prophet ﷺ at Ta’if. The angels guarding the two mountains were ready to destroy the people of Ta’if who had cursed and stoned him, and yet our Prophet ﷺ had hoped that from their progeny would come forth people who worship Allah and would be close to Him. Similarly, at the battle of Uhud, when the Prophet ﷺ was injured, he prevented his Companions from cursing the Quraysh and instead prayed for their guidance.

No justice is like the justice that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ showed. No country exists today that treats prisoners of war the way Prophet Muhammad ﷺ treated his prisoners and those who showed enmity to him. People today champion human rights, yet the very same people violate the rights of many people in this world. The Prophet ﷺ taught us the reality of human rights. He commanded those in charge of the prisoners of war to feed them with food that was better than what everyone else, including what the high-ranking commanders ate. This was the kindness he displayed in his dealings with disbelievers who had showed enmity to him and fought against him. There is no doubt that he treated disbelievers who were not hostile towards him with more kindness and he treated Muslims with more kindness still.

THE FAST OF THE TONGUE

當你開口說話只會有兩種結果，一是對你有利，二是對你不利，沒有所謂的中間效果。所以，每說話前要三思過 。

When you open your mouth to speak, there will only two things can happen. Your words will either be for you or against you. There’s nothing in between. (Mufti Menk)

Abu Sa’id al-Khudri reported: The Prophet (S.A.W.) said, “When the son of Adam wakes up in the morning, all of his limbs defer to the tongue and they say: Fear Allah regarding us, for we are only a part of you. If you are upright, we are upright. If you are crooked, we are crooked.”

Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 2407

This Hadith shows the importance of guarding one's tongue against that which is prohibited. Even the slightest carelessness on the part of the tongue can make all the organs suffer for it. Crookedness of the tongue means the careless use of the tongue which lands the whole body in trouble; and keeping the tongue straight means keeping oneself safe from all kinds of troubles and ordeals.

●The Tongue Expresses what is in the Heart:

If a person is good, it reflects in their saying. Allah has made it very easy for the tongue to move, and it is not difficult to realize that a person’s tongue moves much more as if compared to the limbs. So if a person is not careful about what he says, even a single saying of his can invalidate his actions. It is for this reason that the whole body warns the tongue saying, “Fear Allah concerning us, for we are (dependant) upon you. If you are upright then we will be upright and if you are corrupt then we will be corrupt.” - Sunan at-Tirmidhi (1912), Mishkaat (4838) and Riyaadh as-Saleheen (2/1521)

And at the same time, the tongue is a great blessing from Allah. If we look at the animals, who are unable to speak, we realize the importance of this great tool of communication.

The gratitude that we should show for this great blessing should include, using it as follows:

(a) for the obedience to Allah, 

(b) for reading the Qur'aan, 

(c) for seeking Knowledge, 

(d) to enjoin good and forbidding evil. 

→The prohibitions of the tongue are that you do not lie, abuse, use foul language, backbite and slander.

Allah says in the begining of Soorah al-Mumineen, “Indeed successful are the Believers, those who in their prayer have Khushoo’ (fear of Allah) and those who refrain from vain talk.” [Soorah Mumineen : 1-3]

Here Allah mentions that refraining from vain talk is a sign of the successful believers. Allah also mentions refraining from vain talk after he mentions al-Khushoo’. This is because too much talk makes the heart hard. It is not possible to reach the level of Khushoo’ (fear of Allah) unless one refrains from vain talk.

Imaam an-Nawawee - rahimahullah - mentions “Know it is incumbent upon all to guard their tongues from most speech, except a word that has some benefit in it....” - Kitaabul-Adhkaar

And for those who take heed there is a constant reminder in the verse, “Not a word is said except that there is a watcher by him ready to record it.” - [Soorah Qaf (50):18]

The Messenger of Allah, Muhammed - SallAllahu 'alaihi wa sallam - said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or keep silent.”

Imaam ash-Shafiee - rahimahullah - said. “If you wish to speak then it is upon you to think before you speak. If you think there is good in it then speak and if not then do not speak.”

The earlier mentioned Qur'aanic verses, Hadeeth (sayings) of our noble Prophet and advices by the scholars of Islaam are a guide for those searching for salvation against vain talk. So before we talk, should we not ask ourselves....

>Will this saying of mine please Allah?

>Will this saying of mine bring me closer to Allah?

>Does this saying earn with it obedience to Allah?

>If yes, then speak, otherwise one should keep quiet.

安拉不喜歡人們宣揚惡事，除非他是被人虧枉的。安拉是全聽的是全知的。「古蘭經：4:148」Allah does not like the evil words to be said openly except from anyone wronged. Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing.

THE FAST OF THE TONGUE

In Ramadan, we fast with our mind, stomach, limbs and tongue. How does the tongue fast? It fasts from uttering anything that is displeasing to Allah, all praises and glory be to Him. The harm of the tongue is great and its dangers are huge. In a well known hadith, the Prophet (S.A.W.) was asked whether we would be held accountable for what we say. He (S.A.W.), replied:

“Is there anything that has thrown people on their faces – or he said on their noses – into the Fire except that which their tongues reap?” (Recorded in al-Tirmidhi)

Don’t let Ramadan be a time to let your tongue reap bad deeds. Take care not to backbite, or mention the faults of others, or participate in vain talk. Surely Allah will be merciful to the one who guards their tongue from such acts. We should remember, as Allah advises us in the Qur’an:

“Not even a word can he utter but there is a watcher with him, ever-present.” (Surah Qaf:18)

We will be held to account for everything that our tongue says. In this regard, the Prophet (S.A.W.) said:

”Whoever guarantees me (the chastity of) what is between his legs (i.e. his private parts), and what is between his jaws (i.e., his tongue), I guarantee him Paradise.” (Recorded in Al-Bukhari)

When our righteous predecessors disciplined themselves with the morality of the Qur’an and Sunnah, they weighed their utterances and considered their words. They did not take words lightly. When they uttered, they uttered the praises of Allah and remembrances of him, because they feared their meeting with their Lord. They refrained from treachery, backbiting, obscenities and vain talk. They said a good word, or remained silent.

Allah advises us in the Noble Qur’an:

“O you who believe! Avoid much suspicion; indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily Allah is the One who Forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful.” (Surah al-Hujurat:12)

There are ten misdeeds that can emanate from our tongues if we don’t control them properly. Among them are lying, backbiting, slander, obscenity, cursing, shamelessness, false evidence, derision and scorn. How can a believer fast and then give free reign to their tongue? How can someone fast and then lie and backbite or abuse others forgetting about the Day of Judgement? Is Islam anything other than deeds, practice, methodology, submission, behaviour and application? The purpose of fasting is not hunger and thirst, it is discipline.

The tongue is therefore a means to good or evil. Let’s ensure it is a source of good for us by moistening our tongues with the remembrance of Allah this Ramadan.

Reference: https://www.siasat.com/

Darood Ibrahimi (Darood Sharif Recitation)

 

Ayat al-Kursi

 

The Most Beloved Words to Allah

 

Salam (色倆目)

 

Loh-e-Quran with Recitation

Huroof muqatta’at in Arabic means the mysterious or disjointed letters. These are combinations of 1-5 Arabic letters that Allah has placed at the start of many surahs in the Quran. Out of the 114 chapters of the Quran, these letters start 29 of them. These words don’t have an obvious meaning in Arabic and we don’t know the precise importance of these letters. These letters are also known in South Asia and the subcontinent as Loh-e-Qurani, and many people consider them to have various benefits.

Instances in the Quran

●ALM – Alif Laam Meem: At the starts of Surahs al-Baqarah, aal-Imran, al-Ankabut, ar-Rum, Luqman, as-Sajdah

●ALMS – Alif Laam Meem Saad: At the start of Surah al-A’raf

●ALR – Alif Laam Ra: At the start of Surahs Yunus, Hud, Yusuf, Ibrahim, al-Hijr

●ALMR – Alif Laam Meem Raa: At the start of Surah ar-Ra’d

●KHYAS – Kaaf Haa Yaa ‘Ain Saad: At the start of Surah Maryam

●TH – Ta Ha: At the start of Surah Taha

●TSM – Ta Seen Meem: At the start of Surahs ash-Shuara and al-Qasas

●TS – Ta Seen: At the start of Surah an-Naml

●YS – Yaa Seen: At the start of Surah Yaaseen

●S – Saad: At the start of Surah Saad

●HM – Haa Meem: At the start of Surahs Ghaafir, Fussilat, az-Zukhruf, ad-Dukhan, al-Jathiya, and al-Ahqaf

●HMASQ – Haa Meem ‘Ain Seen Qaaf: At the start of Surah ash-Shura

●Q – Qaaf: At the start of Surah Qaaf

●N – Noon: At the start of Surah al-Qalam

The meanings of Loh-e-Qurani

From what we know about Prophet Muhammad (SAWW) and his sunnah, he never specified the meanings of these letters. There are no narrations about him interpreting their meanings. Moreover, many of the companions of the Prophet ((SAWW) also did not try to interpret these verses of the Quran.

These are some inconclusive reports about some of the Prophet ((SAWW)’s companions attempting to explain the meanings. They suggest that these letters represent words and phrases about Allah and His attributes.

What we should think about this is: If the Prophet ((SAWW) and many of his major companions didn’t interpret these letters, do we need to go any further? Logical reasoning suggests that we should accept that we don’t know the exact meanings. Allah knows best.

The Quran is the uncreated Word of Allah. It is His direct speech; therefore, He knows its meanings the best. If we don’t know the meaning of something, it’s better to just leave it be. If we wrongfully interpret the meanings, that is tantamount to disrespect of the Quran.

Blessings and Benefits of Loh-e-Qurani?

People ascribe many various blessings and benefits to these letters. People say that if someone looks at these letters, he will get accordingly whatever he wishes for. Others say that if you see if early during the day, your day will be perfect, and you won’t face any hardship.

The reality is that these are just theories and as Muslims, our faith is based on the Quran and the Sunnah. Unless Allah or His Prophet (PBUH) informed us of any of these alleged benefits, we cannot accept their validity.

We can say that these letters have one benefit, however. Prophet Muhammad (SAWW) specified that a person who recites a letter of the Quran gets ten rewards. Hence, we can say that reciting each letter gets us ten rewards, as is the case with every letter of the Quran.

Conclusion

No one can claim to know the exact meanings of Huroof-e-Muqatta’at or Loh-e-Qurani. That is because Allah and His Prophet (SAWW) didn’t inform us about them. As a result, any supposed meanings are simply speculation.

As with the rest of the Quran, Loh-e-Qurani letters are of significance. However, singling them out for specific benefits and blessings is wrong. Moreover, hanging Loh-e-Qurani calligraphy clearly depends on one’s intentions. If people think of them as a means of gaining blessings or protection, that is like using them as amulets, which Islam doesn’t allow. May Allah protect us and enable us to follow Islam according to the Quran and Sunnah.

Subhanallah, Alhamdulillah & Allahuakbar 33 times

 

What are benefits of Saying SUBHANALLAH ALHAMDULILLAH ALLAHU AKBAR 33 TIMES?

Three words, Subhanallah, Alhamdulillah and Allahu Akbar are some of the best form of dhikr with extensive rewards that will raise your rank in the here after.

In hadith Riyad As-Salihin book 16, hadith 12 it mentions all the sins of a person will be forgiven even if it could cover the surface of the sea. This would be done for the person who recits Subhanallah 33 times, Alhamdulillah 33 times, and Allahu Akbar 33 times, and then recites la ilaha illallahu, wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa ala kulli shai’in Qadir once for a total of 100 dhikr.

In Sahih Bukhari 3113, The Prophet (saws) said, “Shall I tell you a thing which is better than what you asked me for? When you go to your beds, say: ‘Allahu Akbar (i.e. Allah is Greater)’ for 34 times, and ‘Al hamdu Li llah (i.e. all the praises are for Allah)’ for 33 times, and Subhan Allah (i.e. Glorified be Allah) for 33 times. This is better for you than what you have requested.”

HADITH ON DHIKR

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “He who recites after every prayer: Subhan-Allah (Allah is free from imperfection) thirty-three times; Al-hamdu lillah (praise be to Allah) thirty-three times; Allahu Akbar (Allah is Greatest) thirty-three times; and completes the hundred with: La ilaha illallahu, wahdahu la sharika lahu, lahul-mulku wa lahul-hamdu, wa Huwa ‘ala kulli shai’in Qadir (there is no true god except Allah. He is One and He has no partner with Him. His is the sovereignty and His is the praise, and He is Omnipotent), will have all his sins pardoned even if they may be as large as the foam on the surface of the sea.”

 [Muslim].

Reference: Book 16, Hadith 12

Arabic/English book reference : Book 16, Hadith 1419

These are words for the remembrance of Allah.

Subhan Allah (Arabic: سبحان الله) means “Allah is free from imperfection”.

Al-hamdu lillah (Arabic: الحمد لله) means “All praise is due to Allah”.

Allahu Akbar (Arabic: الله أكبر ) means “Allah is Greatest”.

La ilaha illallah (Arabic: لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا ٱللَّٰهُ) means “There is no deity but Allah”.

Utter these words mindfully and inshallah Allah will be by your side.

Allah will not call you to account for that which is unintentional in your oaths, but He will call you to account for that which your hearts have earned. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most-Forbearing. (2:225)

Ayat from Al Qur'an 5-23

Ayat from Al Qur'an 20-114

 

Ayat from Al Qur'an 2-45

 

Ayat from Al Qur'an 13-11